Make people smile, with your ‘Power of Influence’

Do you know, we all have the amazing ‘Power of Influence’ within us and we use it nearly every day?

No, you don’t need training or magic or super powers to influence others around you because you are doing it already consciously or subconsciously. The real question is, are you making any conscious efforts to use this ‘power’ for a planned cause. More importantly, do you have a cause that drives your actions, conscious or subconscious, to influence lives of others on everyday basis?

Most people will claim their lives are too busy to make an effort to influence others, or that they cannot be bothered with lives of others. NOT TRUE!

Every single day, every single moment and, with every single action of yours- you are influencing lives, whether or not there is a conscious effort involved in the process. You are making a difference, be it a positive one or negative, it is happening because of you. Just like their actions are influencing the choices that you make in your life. However, you can make a conscious effort to use your ‘power of influence’ to bring about a positive change and spread happiness in lives of those around you.

“I don’t have the time!” you say?

Well, what if I told you, that you don’t need extra time, effort or planning to transform your power of influence into ‘Power of Positive Influence’ – all you need to do is, put yourself in other’s shoes and think how you would like to be treated by others when they speak to you. It could be a colleague, a family member of a friend. Let’s throw a postal clerk and a delivery boy in the equation as well – just an acquaintance, or might even be a total stranger. It does make a difference if they smile when you speak to them, or ask you how you were, but not like a social-robot we have become these days. Instead, they may have a genuine courtesy and care in their tone which speaks for itself. And, if they are smiling, cheerful and courteous it might make your day or improve the quality of your experience.

SOInc Nov 09Now, if you treated others in the same way, you are influencing others. Sometimes, in how they feel and sometimes in making decisions and choices that affect them directly. And you are doing this, without interfering. You might be doing this by being positive, or sharing some information that they really could use your guidance in; or point them in the direction where they can find the right answers. Either way, you are making a positive contribution to their lives and you are influencing how they feel, react, act and make decisions in their day.

So, if you are greeting them with a smile, and leaving them with a smile on their face, whether it is because of how nicely you treated them or how useful the information was to them, that you share, or even something you said or did encouraged them to be positive about the reason you two interacted for.

In a gist, if you can make others smile by just doing the same things you do, but with a positive tone and constructive attitude – you are using the ‘Power of Influence’ in the smartest way you can.

And remember, as they say, ‘What goes around, comes around!’


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  • C-Ludik

    To me, the ability to empathize with others depends directly on your ability to identify your own feelings. To dominate empathy, you need to be aware of yourself 🙂 Fore sure, your smile is contagious ! Your smile is something that should be worn often, so I make it a priority to surround myself with people, places, and things that brighten my day. Vow to be the positive, happy person in my group of friends 😉

  • Kristi McAllister

    Oh, it goes without saying that I love this post! I think it’s so true that we can literally change a person’s whole day just by being kind to them. I remember when that happened to me: I was at a local taco stand waiting for an order that I had placed. People who had ordered before me were getting their food, and I was still sitting there 20 minutes later. I was beyond frustrated and I was hungry. I’m pretty sure I snapped at the cashier when I said, “Okay, so what happened exactly?” and she told me that they’d run out of queso so they just didn’t make the order. You can imagine how happy that made me! When I was walking to my car, no food in hand, a young woman who had also been waiting a long time for her order stopped me and said, “You have the most beautiful eyes!” — I was very caught off guard because all I had at the moment were angry eyes haha! I started thinking about it later in terms of how we as people are often too busy in the routine of everyday life that we forget to notice even the most subtle things about another person. I go out of my way to make sure I compliment someone at least once a day, especially if it’s a total stranger that I’m merely crossing paths with on the way to Starbucks. Those things matter and being a positive, happy person is certainly contagious!

  • Taylor

    I love this post! I truly think that positivity is as infectious as negativity and it’s up to you to chose which you spread each day. A smile can literally turn someone’s day around and they are so effortless! 🙂

  • Fashion and Style Police

    I love the message here. Many of us are too selfish to put ourselves in other people’s shoes. We should think carefully of how our actions or inactions affects the life of others.

  • Aine Mulloy

    Totally agree with this, everyone is much more influential than they might think. It’s so easy to be kind – or if you can’t, then do nothing. Simply excuse yourself from the scenario and leave it alone. People would be much better served if we were all kinder

  • Nadalie Bardo

    Such an interesting post, I’ve honestly really never thought about smiles this way before. Although I have gotten into a few heated discussions on whether women should be almost expected to smile. BUT, I do love how a smile has the power to influence those around us. We should all smile more!

  • Shana

    Yes! Your influence is very powerful whether it good or bad. You have the power to choose.

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